Maybe I'm Not Overthinking or Overfeeling

I’ve been told, “Don’t overthink. Don’t feel things too deeply.” For a long time, I believed that meant something was wrong with me.

People equate overthinking to indecisiveness and feeling too much to sensitivity. They tend to forget that there are people who are wired that way. And that wiring is part of identity. It is part of who we are as INFPs.

So, for someone being told those statements countless times, it was akin to saying, “Don’t be yourself. Overthinking and feeling too much are weaknesses.

Deep Processing: Why I Connect Dots Others Don’t Always See

Not all battles are visible. Some quietly happen in the mind. And that is what they don’t see—the battle that I am fighting inside. There have been countless times that I remind myself to “not think or feel too much." It is inevitable. I didn’t wish for this. It is who I am.

I wanted to tell them that it is not just “thinking and feeling too much.” I am processing deeply. I am connecting emotions, ideas, and meaning.

I realized that there are people who have more depth than others—those who see the world, emotions, and ideas on a deeper level. Like an onion that you have to peel layer by layer to fully understand.

I also realized that overthinking and feeling too much weren’t really weaknesses. It is just that some people are not wired for that kind of depth.

Overthinking and feeling too much are actually strengths.

When my thoughts became writing, and my emotions turned into content, music, or storytelling, reflection helped me understand myself and people better.

Overthinking is deep clarity. I see patterns that others miss. I read between the lines. I think before I act or speak. I rehearse everything in my mind countless times. I replay moments to make sure I didn’t hurt anyone with my words or actions.

Not everyone is capable of that kind of introspection.

Feeling Deeply: How Emotional Insight Shapes the Way I See People.

Feeling too much is emotional insight. I understand myself and people deeply through emotions.

Sometimes I even get angry at myself because I cannot get angry at someone—even though what they did was offensive. It is because I understand their point of view.

And that kind of understanding creates emotions that are difficult to express. So instead of being frustrated, I create something meaningful out of what I feel.

In those moments, I also find myself quietly surrendering what I cannot fully understand, trusting that not everything needs to be resolved all at once.

I use overthinking and feeling too much in my creative output. When I am overwhelmed, I write. I map out my thoughts. I capture my feelings. I turn them into sketches, artworks, music compositions, or songs.

What once felt like a disadvantage became something I could use.

Not only did I untangle my thoughts and process my emotions—I created something out of them. Something meaningful. Something real. Something beautiful.

But sometimes, being drawn to it creates an imbalance between reality and my own world. That is why others may see it as a weakness.

So what I do is take time to be alone. I observe my thoughts and emotions. If the time and circumstances are right, I allow myself to process everything fully. I let it all out.

But if it is not the right time, I will try my best to hold back. And if there is no space at all, I ground myself. I reframe my thoughts and emotions.

After that, I will turn it into something—maybe a write-up in my notes app, song lyrics, a simple sketch, or even a content post on my dump account. The possibilities are endless.

Then I return to reality.

I can function like everyone else again. I can move through my day clearheaded and
clearhearted. This is what helps me adapt. This is how it shapes how I create.

That is the beauty of an INFP—navigating between two worlds. One is reality. The other is our inner world.

Navigating Between Two Worlds: One of My Greatest Strengths

Though there is a healthy "usage," overthinking and feeling too much can still be overwhelming. But when guided, they become strengths. It is not about removing them. It is about learning how to use them.

Maybe I am not really overthinking or overfeeling.

Maybe I am understanding more than I realize.

And what I think and feel deeply, I can shape into something meaningful.

But don’t get me wrong—not all the stuff that I create comes from overthinking or overfeeling. 

The other reasons are another story to tell.